Intentions & Responsibility

Hallo!

What did you think of when you woke up this morning? Was it anxious thoughts about your itinerary for the day? Stressing about tasks you might be behind on? Or did you sit for a quiet moment and soak up the novelty of a new day in happiness? Would you be willing to make time for that?

Most of us wake up to the obnoxious and torturous sounds of the alarm clock screaming at us. My heart usually races and I leap out of bed and head for the shower...But what if we paid ourselves some moments of calm, peace, and solitude before we began our day?

Apparently meditation can help in numerous ways...even prevent the effects of aging.

Whether it is in the morning before you begin your daily routine, during your lunch break, or before bed time as a means of clearing your mind, take time to meditate and set your intentions. Our thoughts and mindset affect us more than we give credit for, and if you begin to practice visualizations and positive thinking, your world will change for the better. When we approach our job, coworkers, and chores with a positive mindset, we can send out a ripple of good vibes to others. It becomes contagious and beneficial to everyone. You know how difficult and upsetting the rest of your day can be when someone is being irresponsible with their energy, being negative. So instead of giving into their own unhappiness and misery, feed into the environment some good mojo with positive thinking, sending loving energy, and so on. Random acts of kindness spread like wildfire when we go out of our way to help others. Pay it forward and pass on that happiness.

Most importantly people need to be more responsible with their personal energy; we impact others greatly whether we are aware of it or not. So how can we be more responsible with our energy? By being conscious and aware of our actions. By not taking out our personal problems, frustrations, and stressors out on other people. They don't deserve it. And to be honest, you can release those negative emotions if you choose to do so. All too often I see people who have terrible coping techniques, or lack of, for stress...they then throw their bad energy around at others until they've "dumped" psychically on others and feel relieved. Well it's just plain irresponsible and childish. Whether it is your family members, friends, or colleauges, don't let them dump on you. They can dump elsewhere. Simply remove yourself from the situation and leave them to work out their own problems. If they can't talk about what is bothering them without draining you or abusing you, they don't deserve your time and compassion.

All too often I'll be grocery shopping or buying gas (it must be my aura or something that attracts these people, ha ha) but out of nowhere I am hearing a person's life story, personal problems, or complaints. It's weird. Please leave me alone ;) But I always try to give my advice and move on with my day...unfortunately sometimes I become drained by these people and have to rejuvenate at home. 

So wherever you go, please use your energy responsibly and learn to correct yourself when you get in a negative thinking pattern...in the end, negative thinking only attracts more negative outcomes.

Here is another interesting study about aging and meditation.

Light & Love to you all! ~Samantha~

Let's Talk About Sex (Baby!)

Hey everyone!

I want to talk a bit about sex (ear muffs, everyone!) and even pornography in a spiritual and scientific sense. This is a post I've been meaning to write for months. And because "sex" is in the title, I'm sure this will get more views...sex sells right?

Sometimes I like to relate modern science discoveries to ancient teachings...often we think of old or lost civilizations as being 'dumb' and primitive but sometimes I come across evidence that they might have known what they were doing. Evidence that perhaps commandments, spiritual teachings, and doctrines might have really come from wise counsel or a divine creator. For example...the common religious rule of being married and monogamous sex. (As we know, back in the day there was no government so often religion ruled as a form of government. Most civilizations wanted to grow, so logically they would want many people procreating and reproducing as much as possible to further their population and ruling...not staying with one person for their lifetime, and instead sleeping with many people.) So why would a divine creator supposedly tell people to be married and stay with one person?

A new and interesting study shows that women carry DNA of their sexual partners for their lifetime. *gasp*. Try not to think of some of the creatures we've all dated. ;) Just kidding. Don't feel shame or regret, but embrace and accept. This DNA can remain in your organs and bloodstream...for the entire time you're breathing and existing on this planet. Interesting! Some of the DNA in women comes from being pregnant with a son but scientists discovered that the other "unexplained" origin was male sexual partners.

The article author, Ketler, goes on to say, "I find this extremely fascinating because a spiritual friend and mentor once told me that every time you sleep with somebody you are taking on a part of them within you."

What I think is even more interesting is that many shamans, spiritual healers and practitioners, also share a similar mantra. "Don't sleep with someone you wouldn't want to be." (great article too) Why is that? So we have proven that our auras, magnetic fields around our bodies, exist. Again, I'll toot my horn about Kirlian photography as some of the evidence. Sometimes we feel this aura as our "personal bubble" when we are out in public and someone get's too close in proximity. Sure, there is a cultural and societal element to "how big our bubble is", but we are also sensing our aura and the other person's aura merging. The same happens with sex. And what is fascinating is that when our auras blend with another, such as during the act of sex, we psychically pick up the debris that is in their aura...and they get ours as well. Most people do not ground their energy, meditate, or are even conscious of their personal spiritual energy. So when you have sex with someone that isn't spiritually aware and does not clear their auric field often, you're going to get some gunk in your junk so-to-speak.

What psychic debris am I talking about? We all have it. It's like being a whale in the ocean and after so many years of being in that water we begin to grow barnacles, algae, have "clinger fish" (remoras) attaching themselves and feeding off of us...it's psychic debris we pick up from our daily life and from not clearing our auras often. That day when your boss yelled at you and put you in a crappy mood...that's in your aura unless you clear it out. You can clear your aura through epsom salt baths, smudging, meditation, reiki, grounding, etc. Have you ever gone into a home that was very dark, oppressive, and depressing? That is energy imprinted on a place. We have energy and debris imprinted on us.

With sex, scientifically and spiritually, you're taking a part of someone (the good and the bad) and giving a part of you whenever you engage sexually.  I am excited to see what other evidence develops from this discovery and love whenever science merges with spiritual concepts like this.

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So let's now move on to pornography. *dun dun dun*! Porn is causing widespread erectile dysfunction in our youth at epidemic levels. Yikes! Why? I am not one to demonize things, and I always appreciate two sides to a story but I want to focus on the cons of porn for us humans scientifically.

I studied human sexuality for several elective courses in college and also pornography in my abnormal psychology years at school. I think porn can be something positive if shared and 100% mutually agreed upon by partners; not something forced upon the other partner. However, the cons about porn scientifically outweigh the few pros that I've seen in research. Did you know there is a growing movement against porn? MakeLoveNotPorn and NoFap.com are pretty awesome.

For those of us who are older and see how porn can be "harmless"...take a minute to step back and look at the youth who are growing up with porn and view it as "normal". Porn viewing typically starts at around age 10+ for boys currently (way before they understand dating, relationships, that women are people not objects, that porn is fake, etc.). Porn is fantasy, it's not real, it's exaggerated, out of touch and truly is escapism. These kids are seeing breast implants, airbrushing, plastic surgery, misogyny, and often violence, as "normal". They're being exposed to more fetishes and bizarre sex acts with the diversity of the internet. They're not taught to get to know another soul before sex. The sex acts they see are interpreted as "normal"; Bleached anuses, women who stretch themselves or take opiates before a scene due to the pain, the bleeding between scenes that is cut out, or women who give themselves enemas so it appears "clean" for the camera. They see the objectifying of men and women as sex objects (more often women) as "normal". They also see a very unrealistic version of sex that lacks the intimacy and closeness that can make sex a wonderful thing. Often in porn, the only touching parts of the "bodies" are the genitals. There is usually no kissing. There is no intimacy. Not to mention that porn supports legal prostitution, sex trafficking around the world, demeans our women and men, and leads to other horrific sex crimes.   

 So what else is terrible about porn? Porn is causing an unprecedented level of erectile dysfunction in our young men. This should at least concern the pride and ego of our young men, if not for their own health and enjoyment of real life. This phenomena has been difficult to study because there is no "control group" to compare our youth to...over 90% of our young men watch porn so the experimental group has become the majority. The problem is the novelty of porn. Our brains are not evolved to handle the insane amount of dopamine available at the click of a button and so readily available. Pixels on a screen are replacing real life partners. A male rat will mate and reproduce until exhaustion and death in the lab when presented with new females each time, but when kept with one female his excitability lowers and he is less active and behaves normal. When someone watches porn, it is "a new partner" each time psychologically and thus the excitement overloads our systems, particularly for men. This also leads to addictions. So when someone watches porn and then tries to have sex with their life partner and they are less excited, aroused, disinterested, or can't "get it up", it's because of the porn. This is a fascinating video about the science behind it.

• Porn lowers self-esteem, marital satisfaction, trust and intimacy in relationships. 
• Porn lowers the confidence of men and overall satisfaction with life. 
• Porn typically leads to the craving for more stimulation and needing to watch more intense or out-of-the-ordinary sex acts
• Porn has also been shown to lead to infidelity, rape, and pedophilia. There is an "excitement theory" element that when porn demonstrates rape-like or barely-legal-like sex, people are more inclined to act out those scenes in real life.
• Porn causes men to be less confident in dating and attracting women. Porn increases isolation, depression, weight gain, and lethargy. Men who quit porn became more confident, approached women better and engaged in more relationships than when they watched porn. They were also more productive with tasks and work.

Apparently men over 50 years of age had a faster recovery time then our youth when they quit watching porn; they were able to get erections faster than our young men. What? Yup! Our young men typically need about six months of remission time to accomplish their "sexual reboot" from quitting porn; making their E.D. vanish. Whereas, the senior men needed only 3-4 months of remission time. Why? Because the older generation did not grow up on porn. The senior men are/were performing better than our young men! They weren't raised on pornography. And the more someone watches porn, the stronger the pathways in the brain are made. The ones that connect pleasure with porn, versus pleasure from real sex and real people.

Lot's of people are speaking up against pornography, you can too. Teach our youth what real relationships and intimacy are. Sex is everywhere in our media and daily lives...just count the commercials that are sexual in nature. Everything is being sexualized and it will continue to get worse unless we change. If you're against it, you're not in the minority but often we settle because we think that is what everyone else is doing.
 
To be honest, I'm deeply concerned about the world our youth is inheriting and what they're exposed to (crappy parenting, severe pollution and toxins in our products [aluminum, fluoride, mercury, hormones, etc], a corrupt world, immoral business practices, etc.) I hope this post will lead you to consider the negative evidence of this industry and how it is corrupting our society. And maybe you'll have this discussion with others...I know it is considered taboo but people need to speak out about such things to help one another. I want people to know the truth about anything that is harming them (the business of cancer, porn, fluoride, etc. ) Thanks for reading!

Light & love to you all! :) ~Samantha~ 

You Are What You Eat

Hey guys!

After browsing on Facebook (yes, I am guilty for using social media too...obviously because I write a blog, ha)....

I had come across someone's page who repeatedly was posting angry, judgemental, hateful postings regarding other religions, political concepts, and so on. I honestly get sad or hurt when I see someone conducting themselves in this way...what purpose does it serve? I've seen this type of "Facebooker" in my own family, previously, until I decided I was not going to allow their negativity in my life. Pressing 'block' to someone's postings can be quite liberating. Sure we all share social media space and thankfully we have a free country to share our differing viewpoints in, but when someone is truly focusing on pure hate, judgement, fear, and so on...is it really a viewpoint or rather a state of mind? I am delighted to discuss differing opinions but if their points stem from a lack of education on a matter, or stem from racism, fear, and hate...I have a difficult time truly embracing what it is they're trying to say or what point they're trying to make.

So! The point I am getting to...

The 'food for thought' today: What do you choose to let into your life? You've all heard the saying, "You are what you eat/watch/surround yourself with" and so on. So what is present in your life lately? Are you putting into your life the 'food' to help you grow and flourish, or are you adding in toxins and negative situations that drag you down? Everything from your friends, family, television, groceries, music, and experiences are something we can choose to either let in our life, or to put up healthy boundaries against. So make sure you're involving yourself with what is the highest good for yourself and others. :)

When our media and our own social media postings focus on negative things, more negative things are to follow. For example, when our media idolizes and focuses on mass murderers and suicides...guess what? More mass murders and suicides happen. It's factual. 

All living things respond to positivity and negativity, and yes there is now science behind this. I have mentioned before the plant experiment, or the water and rice experiment. Once upon a time in 'science land' there were three plants (and in the other test, there were three bottles of rice with water) kept in identical environments, and something strange happened. Two plants were the experimental group, and one was the control group. The two experimental plants were divided into the "positive plant" and the other being the "negative" plant. The negative plant was subjected to angry, loud, negative comments, music, and negative thoughts. The other plant was spoken nicely to, complimented, encouraged to grow, told loving things, and 'listened' to classical music. Guess which plant began failing and which plant flourished? In the other experiment the "negative" rice and water rotted faster, whereas the positive rice and water did not rot and seemed to be preserved. Interesting, huh?

Our words, thoughts, emotions, music, and other aspects of our lives have a greater impact than what this world wants you to believe. Everyone has an aura, or a magnetic field, around us; that has been proven (check out Kirlian Photography). It has also been proven that when we have a thought an electromagnetic/physical reaction happens. We could go into quantum physics but basically I am trying to say that we affect our environments and ourselves with our thoughts, beliefs, and experiences.

Here is an interesting article about how people can be made to believe something and that belief alters their performance accordingly. Now imagine if this is what is being applied to in our media...we're made to believe all the hate and violence. http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/your-thoughts-can-release-abilities-beyond-normal-limits/ It can be kind of scary when you think about how much power our governments and media have over us with simple implied messages. This is why I encourage people to grow spiritually, to become aware, to become conscious. You can choose what to let in to your life and what to block out. Choose wisely :)

Spiritual Connection

Hey guys!

So it has been more than time for me to post another blog. My apologies for the tardiness...had to prioritize my tasks and blogging usually ends up at the bottom as I'm not paid to do it like my other jobs, ha ;) But it is something I enjoy doing when I get free time!

The last couple of weeks have been somewhat of a zoo for me in terms of planning and getting things ready. As of now, I should be leaving this Sunday for "La-La Land"...or more commonly known as Los Angeles. :) About a year ago I flew out there to meet with a wonderful production company regarding a television series concept that I liked. Out of the show offers I had turned down over the years, this was the first one that I thought could help evolve our country spiritually...and boy do we need it desperately in these times!

I look at all the anger, frustration, violence, inequality, and so on, in our country and it's hard not to point fingers at the fact that many of our people have completely lost touch of their spiritual side and the spiritual realm. One example: There are people who are quite religious, but lack the spiritual connection...typically they forget or were never taught that they can have a beautiful and close relationship with the divine simply through themselves, instead of ordained individuals or other traditional/orthodox routes. Typically this person will go through the motions of their religion but still have a feeling of disconnect, of feeling lost or questioning "is this all there is?" to their life. They are lacking that wholesome divine connection that all of us can have if we simply choose to do so.

If you would like that nourishing and fulfilling divine connection, start today by inviting our divine creator into your life. Ask for signs if you're unsure about a certain decision or life direction. Write down your dreams and look for hidden meanings and interpretations. Practice meditation and ask your angels and loved ones on the other side for messages. Watch for certain animals that come into your daily life (i.e. a red-tailed hawk) and look up what their "animal medicine" or "totem" means for you...there are messages and meanings in everything if we take the time to look for them.

Some scientists and atheists will tell us that humans practice this "looking for meaning" in insignificant details to bring purpose to our life and to feel more important than just a species that procreates, consumes and then dies...I look for messages in my daily life to make sense out of all the madness I often see in this world, to reassure me that I'm on my right path.  There is no scientist, skeptic, or atheist that could convince me otherwise of the paranormal and spiritual experiences I have witnessed. People and objects being thrown across the room, precognitive experiences, etc.  Things that could not be explained by science...I'll let the skeptics "explain away events" to make them feel more purposeful in the scientific community ;). It helps them sleep at night.

I often try to look at the motives of people who, when presented with valid and undeniable evidence of the paranormal or spiritual, still deny the concept at hand or completely disregard 73% of the population's experiences and beliefs. I think at the root of their behavior is 'fear'. Fear of the unknown, fear of judgement by the divine, fear that there is a god, fear of the idea that we are more than just bodies here are on earth...we are spiritual beings in a physical form. Fear that maybe they haven't been living their life to the best of their abilities as a good, sound, moral person. Fear that maybe the 9-5 world, the fancy cars, and expensive items really don't mean shit in the end. ;) For some people, that realization would mean they would have to completely reconstruct their life...and for them, it is scary.

To me, life is really about helping and loving one another, respecting and appreciating people, giving back to our environment, community, animals, and so on. There are lessons in these practices that no technology or device could ever teach you and is something that cannot be documented by our current means of science.

Hope all is well my dear readers and take care!  

Giving Thanks

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

All too often we get wrapped up in the holiday frenzy with consumerism and presents, getting food prepped, cleaning the house, decorating and so on...Thanksgiving is a time to count your blessings, to show gratitude for all that you've been given in this life. Gratitude is actually one of the best ways to connect with the divine but all too often we take simple things for granted. What are you grateful for? Even if times are dark and rough there is always something to be appreciative of. And don't ever ask "what else could go wrong?"...because you will find out! Enjoy this day with your families and loved ones!

Look around your dining table today at all your loved one's faces. What would life be like without them? Appreciate every moment you have with someone because you never know when those moments will come to an end. 

And if you feel like helping others you can donate $1 to some of the original Americans who could really use heat, food, and shelter. Without the Natives the settlers would have never survived. They took in the settlers, taught and guided them, and in return the whites wiped out 98% of their population. (Granted, brutality ensued on both sides.) Even into the 1990's there was forced sterilization in our country you will never hear about. Only 5 out of the 300+ federally recognized tribes (excluding the unrecognized tribes) are "wealthy" from the casino industry. Many of the other nations struggle with extreme poverty (Pine Ridge Res. is the poorest county in the U.S.), now gang violence, cardboard housing, no potable water or heat, etc. The worst part is that our government often prevents the nations from developing economically...I could write a whole novel on this topic after studying this at MSU, but please educate yourself on contemporary Native American issues and please donate: https://www.naha-inc.org/

Trolls & Angry People :)

Greetings and salutations!

Yesterday I cleaned up the house after having my family over for an early Thanksgiving. I think we're having another one on the official day but I wanted to make their visit a memorable one. I also took them to see "An Irish Christmas" at the Traverse City Opera House which was a blast! If you like Riverdance and Irish dancing, this show was a great way to combine Christmas with the latter. It is a mystery as to how they have that much energy to dance the entire time, but I was in awe...and I had an itch to get up there and dance too (although people would likely leave the show if I were to follow my urges, ha!). ;)

I think it's important to engage in some "old-fashioned" entertainment...instead of being glued to a television, xbobx, iphone, and other things that parents feed their kids with these days. Sometimes it's okay to lock your kid outside and make them use their creativity and imagination, or to take your family to a performance arts show, etc. Back when I was a child, mind you I'm only 26, we didn't have DVD players in the car to entertain us the whole car ride. We had to create games, draw, daydream, and make up our own excitement. I also wasn't constantly stimulated by my parents; if they had work to do we either helped, or we had to keep ourselves occupied while they were busy. And I am glad for it! Now days, kids have such insane A.D.D. our attention span has shrunk to about six seconds they estimate. Sometimes technology isn't the solution...but enough of my parenting rant.

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 Today I had the delight of receiving a very ignorant and hateful message on Facebook from someone who thinks my line of work in spiritual warfare, demonology, removing severe hauntings, and so on, is fraudulent or somehow fake; likely because I teach an optional online course on demonology for people who are curious and want to know more. Not only did he resort to name-calling, but also claimed I charge for my blessing services (I don't), misspelled most of the message, and made other false accusations. I have a lot of thoughts on this ;). Not that I charge for my blessings, but would you expect a plumber or electrician to do their work for free? When I receive a case and a request for a blessing, I ask that they donate towards my gas and supplies, but often do these blessings pro-bono. Meaning sometimes I drive over eight hours, for people I don't even know, to put my safety and well-being on the line, and go through a very uncomfortable time...for free. And often. It would be every week had I not set requirements of severity, meaning a lot of expenses adding up. If I were to ask how many people do this type of charity for others in their life, I would hear a lot of crickets chirping and clearing of throats.

What most people don't realize is that these cases affect me personally. I have horrific nightmares prior to receiving a request for a blessing; a psychic battle with these entities. These entities have also shown up at my house prior to a cleansing to try and ward me off. I have had many bizarre and uncanny things happen surrounding a case, to the point where I can't just write it off as "bad luck". So when people go out of their way to criticize without having a clue about the risks I take, the mysterious illnesses I've acquired from this line of work, and more...it get's under my skin. Spiritual warfare, demonology and so on, is a spiritual calling. But, haters are going to hate. ;) No matter what there are some people who are not going to be satisified with the fact I've performed over 90 blessings, have worked on demonic cases for nine years, have worked in the paranormal for over 15 years with psychic experiences since I was a child, that I do this work for free, that I counsel people spiritually in my daily life, and perform random acts of kindness in hopes of changing this world for the better. It will not satisfy them. I am also a woman (yikes!), 26 years old, blonde, and happy...some "trolls" find this very disgusting and revolting. I am not sorry, ha ha.

I wrote my published book to teach others how to remove their own severe hauntings and it clearly isn't for money...I only get about $1.78 per book, whereas if I self-published I likely would have made more. I help people on a daily basis around the world to perform their own blessings and to get their life in order....because I care. I've been offered numerous television shows but turned them down because of their lack of integrity, and so on. This current show we're about to film a sizzle reel for includes my dream show concept because it enlightens and teaches people how to help themselves! I am not aiming for a TV show for fame and fortune (there isn't any money in reality TV either), but to help others help themselves! Imagine that!  

All I care about with other investigators, psychics, healers, ministers, and so on...is that they are doing work to help others out of the kindness of their own heart; That they aren't turning away those in need. I don't care if they perform a blessing in a different variation; they are still helping and there are numerous ways to help! They are acting from a place of love, something we all need to practice.

So if you are facing internet trolls, adult bullies at an elementary school level, try to send them away with love and pray that they have an epiphany. To realize that instead of being part of the solution, they are choosing to be part of the problem. We don't have to agree with others on everything, but if someone is doing something to help others, respect and appreciate that. There are many ways to do something, and that includes healing and blessing. Light & Love to you all! ~Samantha~

It has been snowing nonstop in T.C. for several days...we have over a foot of snow now. Time to go snowboarding and sledding! :)

Taking Time

Taking Time For...

"Patience is a virtue" or so they say right?

Sometimes we have to force ourselves to take time out to enjoy life, to spend time with our loved ones, to spend time on ourselves. All too often we are racing around in the 'rat race'. I love visiting large cities, but it always seems to remind me of the rats in a study that began to eat each other when they became overpopulated and crowded in their confinement. The attitude of "everyone for themselves" seems to be prevalent and patience is nearly extinct in a lot of the metropolises I've visited. So, then you become a hermit and move to northern Michigan to escape from the concrete jungle like me ;). 

This week/weekend I had my family come up to visit! My mother, grandmother, great uncle and mom's two dogs...it has been a full house! The bulldogs have been enjoying their doggy friends and aside from stealing each other's kibble (because one dog's kibble is always better than the other dog's kibble), things are going smoothly. I'm also doing an early Thanksgiving just in case health matters take a turn for the worse for my relative.

So of course when you come to visit Traverse City, wine and drinking is almost always involved in at least some aspect. I took Grandma ("Graham crackers") and Mom to Tandem Ciders and Leelanau Cheese on the Leelanau Peninsula, the Bluebird in Leland, and more. After that we visited my boyfriend at the Traverse City Golf & Country Club for a beautiful holiday boutique. Lots of artistic and creative vendors brought items to sell...including dark chocolate from Ecuador with ginger *drool*. We ended last night with a round of poker that I cleaned house with ;)

If you ever get a chance to stop by the Bluebird in "Fishtown" get the Spanish coffee...its about 98% liquor with a splash of coffee, a caramelized sugar and cinnamon rim, and whip cream. Yum! Grandma and mom both had some rosy cheeks. Your bartender may be disgruntled depending on the season and how busy they are, but they are delicious! It truly is an art how they make it!

 

I also purchased an aerial/ascension yoga swing for my room...I absolutely love that thing. I unfortunately have the spine of a 90 year-old woman so hopefully it will help with my scoliosis! You can also unfold it and sit in it like a hammock and feel like a baby squirrel in a cocoon nest :). It is purely relaxing and delightful! 

Well that is all for today! One of my random life postings, rather than spiritual teachings, but I figured you guys would like to see some cool pictures! Light & love to you all! ~Samantha~

Those Ugly Feelings & Emotions

Hey everyone!

You know when you hire a tree removal service, and they rip out the electrical lines and damage your garage and roof? Well it was one of those days yesterday!

I was in the basement when I heard a loud crash, swearing, and then the power went out. I knew exactly what happened, as I previously suggested that they have the electric company drop the lines for them. They insisted they could work around it, but the guy's son made a mistake. People make mistakes.

I answered the knock at my door and looked past his shoulder to see some "interesting" damage:

Delightful! But things could have been so much worse. Thankfully the owner's son wasn't badly injured but he did have to make a visit to the hospital to make sure he didn't fracture anything. What I thought was interesting was that the father, out of anger and embarrassment, chose to hit his son on the way to the hospital. He also threatened to beat his son in the "wood shed if he ever pulls a stunt like this again." I don't know if the owner said all of this to me to make it appear as if he cared about the mistake, or if this is seriously how he resolves conflict and accidents with others. Which brings me to anger and those ugly feelings we all have arise on occasion.

I could have been enraged, furious, thrown my tea mug across the yard and made a huge scene threatening them. But why? What purpose would that action serve? The tree crew already knew their mistake, they knew what they did was not what a client wants, and so on. I accepted what happened and chose not to be angry, but to work with them on the solution. I think it put everyone at ease, and they were able to focus on more thorough means of resolving the damage.

Anger and violence are an odd reaction and a primal way of getting people to do something, or react in a certain way; to control someone or something. I've seen people try to beat their dog because they think somehow violence will register with the animal better, rather than using an effective training method like Cesar Milan's dog psychology method based on pack mentality. But let's take a step back further.

Why do we resort to violence? Violence and anger fails to convey the true reason behind our actions...that the father was afraid of his son being killed in that accident, that our feelings were deeply hurt, that we feel our boundaries are being violated, or that we're extremely frustrated. Instead of relaying those core issues and reasons, we resort to violence and anger. Violence and anger cuts short our experience and our message. It keeps relationships and people oppressed and elementary, it boasts of primitive and un-evolved times. Violence and anger are not effective. The only time they can be effective and useful is in self-defense.

And the even bigger question for me is, "Is the anger worth it?". It is really worth releasing such negative energy in such a irresponsible way? I once heard of a profound analogy about negative words, bullying, violence, and so on:

"Your body is like a piece of wood. 

All those abusive comments, 

violent experiences, and negative memories

are like nails driven into the wood.

You can remove the nails but

the holes still remain."

I've seen that it takes a lot more positive actions and energy to compensate for one small act of negativity. Why is that? Negativity seems to be so powerful, it is something we are physiologically wired to remember more than positive things, and it can be something we carry with ourselves for a long time. 

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I did a random act of kindness the other day (I try to do these often if it's within my power and means). I was at Ulta getting a few supplies so I could paint on my makeup and "beautify" myself, haha. While in the checkout line, a woman stood next to me at the counter juggling her baby and a wallet. She was asking the cashier if she could charge her credit card for a few cents as the item cost $8.75 or so, and she had exactly $8 in cash on her. She would have to unpack her whole backpack and baby carrier to get the card. I asked her if she needed change and the look on her face was pretty memorable. 

"I might actually..." but she brushed off my comment as if I wasn't serious. I was in a hurry (thankfully time doesn't exist on the other side) and before the woman was into her checkout process, I passed her a dollar.

"Here's a dollar, will that cover it?" I asked, not knowing how much the total cost was. 

"Oh my god! That is the nicest thing anyone has...thank you! I hope your good karma comes back to you! Thank you so much!" She exclaimed with a confused face. 

I laughed, "I sure hope so! The last two years have been a nightmare...but it'll get better soon! Have a good day!" 

To me it was just a dollar...the same value as four quarters; Something I could find quickly in a parking lot, under my couch, etc. but for her it meant a lot more and was something she needed at the time. She muttered to the cashier as I was leaving that she never had anyone do something generous like that for her. In my head I kept thinking, "It's only a dollar..." but was grateful it impacted her like that. 

Now...had someone come up to her in a different scenario and said something hurtful like, "Look lady, we've got people waiting in line here - we don't have all day! If you can't afford it, get the hell out of the store!" The result would be much different! I honestly believe that those negative experiences stick with people more deeply during their day. Why? We feel bad, we run over the experience in our head and what we should have said or done, and so on. Whereas with a positive experience we go about our day happily, and some of us might even try to pay it forward, but we don't focus on it like with negative events. 

 So where am I going with this rant and what is the moral of the story? I'm not really sure :) but basically I'd like to see the world behave in a much more compassionate, loving, and understanding way...I think we would make a lot more progress than currently! 

Think about the wooden holes in you. What painful memories or traumas do you carry with you? Are you ready to forgive and release? Take a moment to visualize your liver and abdomen being washed over with a beautiful healing green light, filling in any of the holes others have left in you. Followed by a soothing blue light enveloping your body. Practice this daily or especially after you've encountered someone or something that has hurt you. 

 Please be responsible with your energy. Do not "dump" your emotions and psychic energy on other people. Vent if you need to, but don't take it out on others if you're in a bad mood. Go forth and conquer my readers! Send out good vibes, love, and light to others. If you encounter someone who is being poopy, envision a brick wall between you and them in your mind and surround yourself in white light  :) 

Light & Love to you all,

~Samantha~ 

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I am trying to mentally prepare myself for the possibility that my beloved family member might not be around for very long. He is like a grandfather figure to me and unfortunately has a very aggressive form of prostrate cancer. I have known him my entire life and am grateful for the last decade or so of time that I've gotten to spend with him and the family. As his dementia progressed he became much more docile, loving, and relaxed. He has always been eccentric but that is why I love him.
I put up the Christmas tree and decorations last night with my boyfriend. It's only November 12th! Usually I wait until after Thanksgiving to decorate...but I want the house to look as cozy and charming as possible for when he comes to visit.

Letting Go - It's Okay

Hey everyone,

It started snowing up here in Traverse City a few days ago but today it actually started accumulating...thankfully it is warming up again and will melt soon! Michigan is bipolar and the weather is always changing - which brings me to talking about change in our lives. :)

(On a side note, I ate almost an entire box of those new Cheez-It white cheddar "Grooves" while writing this posting...I am ashamed, haha!)

Life is very much cyclical if you look at the broad picture. We are born, we grow up, and then we pass away. But within this lifetime, look at all the other cycles we encounter. The changes of the moon that affects us (whether we are aware of it or not. Many emergency rooms are the busiest during full moon periods), the rotations of seasons, cycles of our bodies, and the phases of our interests and hobbies. I figure since 50-75% of our bodies are composed of water, the affect the moon has on tides and water must also apply to ourselves.

But let's look at the cycles of our experiences and those in our lives. I now believe there is no such thing as coincidence after looking back on all the experiences in my life. I can give credit to a divine creator for leading me throughout life even though I am blind and unsure. Although most of the lessons and encounters may have not made sense at the time, in retrospect I now know I am exactly where I should be and have experienced what I needed to in order to evolve, learn, and grow. YOU are exactly where you should be.

Sometimes things in my life didn't work out, and although I was saddened or disappointed, I knew that in time the reason would reveal itself. And it always has. Sometimes it takes years for the truth and plan to be shown, but it always will. So if you're confused or unsure, ask for guidance and trust that you will be led as needed. When things don't work out as planned, know that it wasn't meant to be, that something better or something different is intended for you.

They say if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans. ;) Look at how much we plan and plot in our daily lives, only to be caught off guard when life takes the wheel and we're directed onto a new path. It can seem scary and intimidating, but you wouldn't be guided down that path unless you could handle it. If you find yourself in this type of a situation, completely swept off your intended route and thrown into a shocking scenario, it is because you were not in alignment with your soul purpose and the road you needed to be walking down. There are times when we want something so badly to happen or work out, but it wasn't meant to be. You are being put on a new path, intricately planned and created just for you! Just like all the amazing veins and designs a snowflake has, so too is your path and individuality in life. You were made unique and special, and your road to travel is just the same.

 
But what about other people in our lives? People come into our lives for various reasons, time periods, and purposes.

One of the harder lessons for us to embrace is the changing of people in our lives. Sometimes we outgrow people, others pass away and leave their worldly existence, and other times we have to cut our cords to someone out of preservation or for our own well-being. It's scary to let go of the familiar, the routine, the comfort...but "change is the only constant" in our life, so try to embrace it and make it something positive for you!

 If the separation was painful, don't be bitter, don't hold resentments...learn to let go and wish them well. You are an evolved soul and will take the higher road. Envision sending them away surrounded in white light and love. You do not have to forget the actions of others, but you can forgive...if you let yourself. Holding onto grudges or pain does not hold the other person accountable, it doesn't make up for what has happened, and it certainly doesn't heal...it simply wears you down with a weight that is unhealthy. It will eat away at you and tarnish your soul with a bitter, metallic shell. Yucky! ;)    

One of the best poems my mother taught me about was "Reason, Season, or a Lifetime". Regardless of what changes are going on in your life, know that there is a purpose. Perhaps you're transitioning with friends, your family, your job, your home, or your interests. Just know that it is okay to let go when needed, to never force anything, and to always trust that whatever is meant to be will be. I hope you enjoy the poem below and wish all the best for you all. Light & Love! ~Samantha~

REASON, SEASON, OR A LIFETIME:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,

it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty;

to provide you with guidance and support;

to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend, and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,

because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;

things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,

and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

Latest Update

Hey everyone!

Long time, no see!

I've been fighting the whole concept and dedication to writing a blog but then I find myself wanting to rant online to you all...so here I am...again!

Life for me has changed quite drastically since the last time I posted on here. Some of you may know I went through four out of the five top life stressors all at the same time starting in February...and some extra horribly-abnormal experiences most people don't have. It was quite insane. As a matter of safety and for my own sanity, I moved up north to Traverse City! I freaking love it up here! There is something special and healing about the energy here...and I find it more than ironic that a lot of the people who move here are looking for healing as well, or are healers themselves. We also have the highest amount of authors per capita. It is gorgeous but also very expensive to live in T.C. ...but the pay is usually terrible and it's hard to thrive unless you have your own successful business, etc. They call it "God's Country"...and the running joke in response to that statement is, "because only God himself can afford to live here!" But when you're up on the peninsula at the scenic lookout, you can see where they came up with "God's Country". It is truly stunning and something I'm very proud of for our beautiful state.

(I just remembered that crazy marketing campaign that Wisconsin tried to pull by claiming their state was shaped like a mitten a few years back...ha ha ha! Hilarious! Michiganders were ready to go to war...I'm not kidding.) 

I have so many thoughts each day, continuously, it's hard to shut my brain off let alone catalog these ideas and concepts into a blog...or an action and do it! I think that's what they call A.D.D. ;) But I have so many thoughts I'd like to share, and is reason why my Youtube channel (Seharris11 and MichiganPRA) are so discombobulated. For example, I want to talk about how parenting has become a lost art, how everything is over-sexualized, how out of touch with reality we are and what is actually important in life, spirituality, the paranormal, how we affect our environment and the animals, consumerism, natural and alternative medicine you can do on your own, how Western medicine is behind in a mind/body/soul approach, growing your own garden, how silly my Bulldogs are, how porn is causing wide-spread E.D. in our youth, etc. I could go on and on!

But I think these topics touch on a lot of concerns and thoughts other people have. Things seem a bit dire and desperate these days (at least in America/Michigan) with the corruption with Big Pharma, Big Brother, Industrialized farming, our crappy economy, the cost of living, etc. I see a lot of people struggling and in numerous ways....struggling to live their life outside of the 9-5 because I think everyone knows deep down inside that it is unnatural, that bills and savings really are trivial in the end when we die, and yet we are a "slave to money, then you die" as The Verve sang:

 "Cause it's a bittersweet symphony, this life
Try to make ends meet
You're a slave to money then you die
I'll take you down the only road I've ever been down
You know the one that takes you to the places
where all the veins meet yeah"

I think the road where all the veins meet is honestly the spiritual life, or the spiritual path. Spirit and the spiritual connect and make sense out of all the other parts of our life, all the other paths and experiences we have. We can understand why we experience certain pains, joys, lessons, and more down here on "planet number three", through the spiritual lens. To me, putting religion aside, knowing there is life after death gives purpose to our existence here on Earth. It is like our other half of our life. And according to many of the mediums, psychics, and people who have had NDE's and OBE's (near death experiences and out of body experiences), apparently we CHOOSE to experience certain karmic life lessons while we are down here before we are born and incarnate. We choose the significant events to further evolve our souls. This is a concept that rings true to my soul because it plays off the idea of freedom of choice (which is what humans want and supposedly asked for) and that God isn't at fault for all the atrocities down here that we see. I always get upset and saddened when I hear people blame the Creator for their misgivings, traumas, downfalls, and so on. So really, in this theory, we are truly the captains of our lives...we can choose what to experience down here, what souls we will incarnate with in our family, etc. 

We may not remember these supposed "choices" (because we would behave differently and not learn), but I want to remember a choice that you have daily: We can also choose each day how we're going to live our life and the actions we will take. They say about 80-90% of your happiness is under your control...and only 10-20% is dictated by outside and external factors like other people. Bhuddist monks who were prisoners of war for years, practiced happiness during their captivity and torture, and it is what also saved their lives in the end. Many of the other prisoners died, but not the monks that knew how to meditate and practice happiness. Happiness is a "practice", so make sure you cultivate it. It does not come from other people, although they can make us feel happy...happiness is something that we generate, tend to, and grow. Or we can let it shrivel and die, rely on other people to make us feel happy and secure, become codependent and unevolved, etc. 

Remove negative and toxic people from your life, find something you love and turn it into a business or career, listen to music that vibrates with positivity, respect your body through exercise and healthy organic food, meditate, and so on. 

That's all for today folks! :) 

P.S. I just learned the other day that if you have real plants growing in your work space or office, there is a 20% increase in productivity that scientists have found. :) 

Facebook status/personal life update: "Slowly recovering from last night's festivities lol. Yesterday had some weird events though. Found out my tree guy who I've been waiting on for over a month is writing bad checks so his worker suggested I hire a different guy, then I go to drop off my electrician's tools that he left and meet him at meijer...a car flies up out of nowhere, a squabble happens and I watch as my electrician denies his identity and gets served by a county processor. She screams "you've been served!!" And she peels off. I make a weird frowny face and get back in the car and go home...it was enough drama for me lol. I felt like I was part of a setup or sting Lesson for all: try to obey the law and try to be a good citizen and you can avoid most trouble lol. Easy enough."