"I really want to move to Boulder, but I'm scared of having to start a new life. Scared to leave my friends behind."
"I can't leave my boyfriend yet because he'll freak out..."
"I haven't had a raise in years but I'm afraid to confront my boss..."
"I could try doing it, but what if ____ happens? Then what?"
How many times have you heard similar statements...or even said them yourself? All too often we let fear control our lives. Fear is actually not of God or the divine. Fear is a very powerful and controlling human emotion we experience here on Earth...but it is certainly not from above. In fact I think it's the "other guy" that is behind "fear" when discussing the spectrum of good and evil. ;) Fear leads and keeps us in abusive relationships, unhappy situations, and more.
When you look at some of the negative human behaviors on this planet, fear is frequently the root cause:
Envy = fear of not being good enough, not being loved
Stealing = fear of not having enough, needing to pay bills, etc.
Lying = fear of facing the truth or repercussions of the truth
and so on...
Bullying = fear of dealing with own issues or home-life, fear of not being in control, so they take it out on others, etc.
Could fear also be behind war and murder? What else? It's a good exercise to try and see how fear can manifest itself for some in numerous ways. Fear of not being in control? Etc.
Fear can encompass us, control our lives, change the direction of how we could've lived our lives. I'm not saying to go jump off a bridge and ignore logical reason. But...is there a decision you're avoiding because you're afraid? Is there something in your life you're scared to confront or finally deal with? You know deep down that eventually you will need to deal with it but keep putting it aside? Why is that? Likely, fear is what keeps holding you back. Perhaps it's a dead-end job, marriage/relationship, town, group of friends...we've all had to face transitions. But I do believe it is better to embrace those changes than to avoid them.
It kind of reminds me of the meaning behind the Tower card in tarot; which looks scary as hell to be honest! Basically if you avoid something and cling on to outdated issues, the Tower will come in to your life and kick your butt. It will abruptly turn your life upside down, spank you on the tush, and throw you out the front door into the world. Often it is painful and terrifying. We kick and scream while trying to hold on to something secure and dependable. But! It has to be that dramatic because you were avoiding that change for so long...you chose to be stubborn, you chose to grow roots into the situation. You settled, you embraced a wrong path, and now the Tower comes in to rearrange some things. Let's call it a drastic "redecorating" of your life. Things that personify the Tower would be: divorce, getting fired, a severe illness, a friend stabs you in the back, and so on. But they happen because you avoided dealing with them previously in some way or another; there were issues to begin with and now they're being dealt with in a different way. Ex: You knew you were sick but were too scared to go to the Doctor, now they need to do surgery. You hated your job but stayed and now got fired. Your marriage was unhappy and falling apart and now your spouse cheated on you and left. Your friend stabbed you in the back but you outgrew them long ago...etc.) When we don't deal with things upfront, life has a way of putting you on a new path whether you like it or not.
Often, what we fear in our minds is much more worse than what the reality of the situation is. We humans tend to snowball everything into a big old clump of poop and then avoid it. When really, the key is to take baby steps...taking small bites out of a whale and working away at it each day. Be kind to yourself. Don't drive yourself insane, but slowly work on whatever it is until it's complete. That is the only way to go about it so you don't burn yourself out. Just put on your "Big Boy/Girl Pants" and take that first step towards dealing with it. Make a plan, write out steps, do whatever it is to get yourself going on making the changes needed.
Another issue with fear is our thought patterns. I've talked with you guys about this before in some other post, but fear can lead to severe negative thinking. You may all know about quantum physics, the Law of Attraction, and manifesting. So when we focus our thoughts and energy on fear...we are actually calling that to become our reality. Do not dread, or worry. You can accidentally start manifesting your fears. Simply identify the possible outcomes (good and bad) and accept that "it will be what it will be." And end it at that. If you catch yourself getting into a fearful thought or thinking pattern, redirect your thoughts and focus on something loving, secure, and good.
Of course this is all easier said than done, but I think you understand what the moral of this post is. If there is something you're scared of and avoiding in this life....deal with it now or it may come back in a much different form to be dealt with in a more dramatic way. Do not be afraid. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in life. Trust in the divine and know there is a larger plan that we aren't always aware of but it does exist...and you're part of the plan :)
Light & love to you all!
~Samantha~
