Let's Talk About Sex (Baby!)

Hey everyone!

I want to talk a bit about sex (ear muffs, everyone!) and even pornography in a spiritual and scientific sense. This is a post I've been meaning to write for months. And because "sex" is in the title, I'm sure this will get more views...sex sells right?

Sometimes I like to relate modern science discoveries to ancient teachings...often we think of old or lost civilizations as being 'dumb' and primitive but sometimes I come across evidence that they might have known what they were doing. Evidence that perhaps commandments, spiritual teachings, and doctrines might have really come from wise counsel or a divine creator. For example...the common religious rule of being married and monogamous sex. (As we know, back in the day there was no government so often religion ruled as a form of government. Most civilizations wanted to grow, so logically they would want many people procreating and reproducing as much as possible to further their population and ruling...not staying with one person for their lifetime, and instead sleeping with many people.) So why would a divine creator supposedly tell people to be married and stay with one person?

A new and interesting study shows that women carry DNA of their sexual partners for their lifetime. *gasp*. Try not to think of some of the creatures we've all dated. ;) Just kidding. Don't feel shame or regret, but embrace and accept. This DNA can remain in your organs and bloodstream...for the entire time you're breathing and existing on this planet. Interesting! Some of the DNA in women comes from being pregnant with a son but scientists discovered that the other "unexplained" origin was male sexual partners.

The article author, Ketler, goes on to say, "I find this extremely fascinating because a spiritual friend and mentor once told me that every time you sleep with somebody you are taking on a part of them within you."

What I think is even more interesting is that many shamans, spiritual healers and practitioners, also share a similar mantra. "Don't sleep with someone you wouldn't want to be." (great article too) Why is that? So we have proven that our auras, magnetic fields around our bodies, exist. Again, I'll toot my horn about Kirlian photography as some of the evidence. Sometimes we feel this aura as our "personal bubble" when we are out in public and someone get's too close in proximity. Sure, there is a cultural and societal element to "how big our bubble is", but we are also sensing our aura and the other person's aura merging. The same happens with sex. And what is fascinating is that when our auras blend with another, such as during the act of sex, we psychically pick up the debris that is in their aura...and they get ours as well. Most people do not ground their energy, meditate, or are even conscious of their personal spiritual energy. So when you have sex with someone that isn't spiritually aware and does not clear their auric field often, you're going to get some gunk in your junk so-to-speak.

What psychic debris am I talking about? We all have it. It's like being a whale in the ocean and after so many years of being in that water we begin to grow barnacles, algae, have "clinger fish" (remoras) attaching themselves and feeding off of us...it's psychic debris we pick up from our daily life and from not clearing our auras often. That day when your boss yelled at you and put you in a crappy mood...that's in your aura unless you clear it out. You can clear your aura through epsom salt baths, smudging, meditation, reiki, grounding, etc. Have you ever gone into a home that was very dark, oppressive, and depressing? That is energy imprinted on a place. We have energy and debris imprinted on us.

With sex, scientifically and spiritually, you're taking a part of someone (the good and the bad) and giving a part of you whenever you engage sexually.  I am excited to see what other evidence develops from this discovery and love whenever science merges with spiritual concepts like this.

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So let's now move on to pornography. *dun dun dun*! Porn is causing widespread erectile dysfunction in our youth at epidemic levels. Yikes! Why? I am not one to demonize things, and I always appreciate two sides to a story but I want to focus on the cons of porn for us humans scientifically.

I studied human sexuality for several elective courses in college and also pornography in my abnormal psychology years at school. I think porn can be something positive if shared and 100% mutually agreed upon by partners; not something forced upon the other partner. However, the cons about porn scientifically outweigh the few pros that I've seen in research. Did you know there is a growing movement against porn? MakeLoveNotPorn and NoFap.com are pretty awesome.

For those of us who are older and see how porn can be "harmless"...take a minute to step back and look at the youth who are growing up with porn and view it as "normal". Porn viewing typically starts at around age 10+ for boys currently (way before they understand dating, relationships, that women are people not objects, that porn is fake, etc.). Porn is fantasy, it's not real, it's exaggerated, out of touch and truly is escapism. These kids are seeing breast implants, airbrushing, plastic surgery, misogyny, and often violence, as "normal". They're being exposed to more fetishes and bizarre sex acts with the diversity of the internet. They're not taught to get to know another soul before sex. The sex acts they see are interpreted as "normal"; Bleached anuses, women who stretch themselves or take opiates before a scene due to the pain, the bleeding between scenes that is cut out, or women who give themselves enemas so it appears "clean" for the camera. They see the objectifying of men and women as sex objects (more often women) as "normal". They also see a very unrealistic version of sex that lacks the intimacy and closeness that can make sex a wonderful thing. Often in porn, the only touching parts of the "bodies" are the genitals. There is usually no kissing. There is no intimacy. Not to mention that porn supports legal prostitution, sex trafficking around the world, demeans our women and men, and leads to other horrific sex crimes.   

 So what else is terrible about porn? Porn is causing an unprecedented level of erectile dysfunction in our young men. This should at least concern the pride and ego of our young men, if not for their own health and enjoyment of real life. This phenomena has been difficult to study because there is no "control group" to compare our youth to...over 90% of our young men watch porn so the experimental group has become the majority. The problem is the novelty of porn. Our brains are not evolved to handle the insane amount of dopamine available at the click of a button and so readily available. Pixels on a screen are replacing real life partners. A male rat will mate and reproduce until exhaustion and death in the lab when presented with new females each time, but when kept with one female his excitability lowers and he is less active and behaves normal. When someone watches porn, it is "a new partner" each time psychologically and thus the excitement overloads our systems, particularly for men. This also leads to addictions. So when someone watches porn and then tries to have sex with their life partner and they are less excited, aroused, disinterested, or can't "get it up", it's because of the porn. This is a fascinating video about the science behind it.

• Porn lowers self-esteem, marital satisfaction, trust and intimacy in relationships. 
• Porn lowers the confidence of men and overall satisfaction with life. 
• Porn typically leads to the craving for more stimulation and needing to watch more intense or out-of-the-ordinary sex acts
• Porn has also been shown to lead to infidelity, rape, and pedophilia. There is an "excitement theory" element that when porn demonstrates rape-like or barely-legal-like sex, people are more inclined to act out those scenes in real life.
• Porn causes men to be less confident in dating and attracting women. Porn increases isolation, depression, weight gain, and lethargy. Men who quit porn became more confident, approached women better and engaged in more relationships than when they watched porn. They were also more productive with tasks and work.

Apparently men over 50 years of age had a faster recovery time then our youth when they quit watching porn; they were able to get erections faster than our young men. What? Yup! Our young men typically need about six months of remission time to accomplish their "sexual reboot" from quitting porn; making their E.D. vanish. Whereas, the senior men needed only 3-4 months of remission time. Why? Because the older generation did not grow up on porn. The senior men are/were performing better than our young men! They weren't raised on pornography. And the more someone watches porn, the stronger the pathways in the brain are made. The ones that connect pleasure with porn, versus pleasure from real sex and real people.

Lot's of people are speaking up against pornography, you can too. Teach our youth what real relationships and intimacy are. Sex is everywhere in our media and daily lives...just count the commercials that are sexual in nature. Everything is being sexualized and it will continue to get worse unless we change. If you're against it, you're not in the minority but often we settle because we think that is what everyone else is doing.
 
To be honest, I'm deeply concerned about the world our youth is inheriting and what they're exposed to (crappy parenting, severe pollution and toxins in our products [aluminum, fluoride, mercury, hormones, etc], a corrupt world, immoral business practices, etc.) I hope this post will lead you to consider the negative evidence of this industry and how it is corrupting our society. And maybe you'll have this discussion with others...I know it is considered taboo but people need to speak out about such things to help one another. I want people to know the truth about anything that is harming them (the business of cancer, porn, fluoride, etc. ) Thanks for reading!

Light & love to you all! :) ~Samantha~