What did you think of when you woke up this morning? Was it anxious thoughts about your itinerary for the day? Stressing about tasks you might be behind on? Or did you sit for a quiet moment and soak up the novelty of a new day in happiness? Would you be willing to make time for that?
Most of us wake up to the obnoxious and torturous sounds of the alarm clock screaming at us. My heart usually races and I leap out of bed and head for the shower...But what if we paid ourselves some moments of calm, peace, and solitude before we began our day?
Apparently meditation can help in numerous ways...even prevent the effects of aging.
Whether it is in the morning before you begin your daily routine, during your lunch break, or before bed time as a means of clearing your mind, take time to meditate and set your intentions. Our thoughts and mindset affect us more than we give credit for, and if you begin to practice visualizations and positive thinking, your world will change for the better. When we approach our job, coworkers, and chores with a positive mindset, we can send out a ripple of good vibes to others. It becomes contagious and beneficial to everyone. You know how difficult and upsetting the rest of your day can be when someone is being irresponsible with their energy, being negative. So instead of giving into their own unhappiness and misery, feed into the environment some good mojo with positive thinking, sending loving energy, and so on. Random acts of kindness spread like wildfire when we go out of our way to help others. Pay it forward and pass on that happiness.
Most importantly people need to be more responsible with their personal energy; we impact others greatly whether we are aware of it or not. So how can we be more responsible with our energy? By being conscious and aware of our actions. By not taking out our personal problems, frustrations, and stressors out on other people. They don't deserve it. And to be honest, you can release those negative emotions if you choose to do so. All too often I see people who have terrible coping techniques, or lack of, for stress...they then throw their bad energy around at others until they've "dumped" psychically on others and feel relieved. Well it's just plain irresponsible and childish. Whether it is your family members, friends, or colleauges, don't let them dump on you. They can dump elsewhere. Simply remove yourself from the situation and leave them to work out their own problems. If they can't talk about what is bothering them without draining you or abusing you, they don't deserve your time and compassion.
All too often I'll be grocery shopping or buying gas (it must be my aura or something that attracts these people, ha ha) but out of nowhere I am hearing a person's life story, personal problems, or complaints. It's weird. Please leave me alone ;) But I always try to give my advice and move on with my day...unfortunately sometimes I become drained by these people and have to rejuvenate at home.
So wherever you go, please use your energy responsibly and learn to correct yourself when you get in a negative thinking pattern...in the end, negative thinking only attracts more negative outcomes.
I want to talk a bit about sex (ear muffs, everyone!) and even pornography in a spiritual and scientific sense. This is a post I've been meaning to write for months. And because "sex" is in the title, I'm sure this will get more views...sex sells right?
Sometimes I like to relate modern science discoveries to ancient teachings...often we think of old or lost civilizations as being 'dumb' and primitive but sometimes I come across evidence that they might have known what they were doing. Evidence that perhaps commandments, spiritual teachings, and doctrines might have really come from wise counsel or a divine creator. For example...the common religious rule of being married and monogamous sex. (As we know, back in the day there was no government so often religion ruled as a form of government. Most civilizations wanted to grow, so logically they would want many people procreating and reproducing as much as possible to further their population and ruling...not staying with one person for their lifetime, and instead sleeping with many people.) So why would a divine creator supposedly tell people to be married and stay with one person?
A new and interesting study shows that women carry DNA of their sexual partners for their lifetime. *gasp*. Try not to think of some of the creatures we've all dated. ;) Just kidding. Don't feel shame or regret, but embrace and accept. This DNA can remain in your organs and bloodstream...for the entire time you're breathing and existing on this planet. Interesting! Some of the DNA in women comes from being pregnant with a son but scientists discovered that the other "unexplained" origin was male sexual partners.
The article author, Ketler, goes on to say, "I find this extremely fascinating because a spiritual friend and mentor
once told me that every time you sleep with somebody you are taking on a
part of them within you."
What I think is even more interesting is that many shamans, spiritual healers and practitioners, also share a similar mantra. "Don't sleep with someone you wouldn't want to be." (great article too) Why is that? So we have proven that our auras, magnetic fields around our bodies, exist. Again, I'll toot my horn about Kirlian photography as some of the evidence. Sometimes we feel this aura as our "personal bubble" when we are out in public and someone get's too close in proximity. Sure, there is a cultural and societal element to "how big our bubble is", but we are also sensing our aura and the other person's aura merging. The same happens with sex. And what is fascinating is that when our auras blend with another, such as during the act of sex, we psychically pick up the debris that is in their aura...and they get ours as well. Most people do not ground their energy, meditate, or are even conscious of their personal spiritual energy. So when you have sex with someone that isn't spiritually aware and does not clear their auric field often, you're going to get some gunk in your junk so-to-speak.
What psychic debris am I talking about? We all have it. It's like being a whale in the ocean and after so many years of being in that water we begin to grow barnacles, algae, have "clinger fish" (remoras) attaching themselves and feeding off of us...it's psychic debris we pick up from our daily life and from not clearing our auras often. That day when your boss yelled at you and put you in a crappy mood...that's in your aura unless you clear it out. You can clear your aura through epsom salt baths, smudging, meditation, reiki, grounding, etc. Have you ever gone into a home that was very dark, oppressive, and depressing? That is energy imprinted on a place. We have energy and debris imprinted on us.
With sex, scientifically and spiritually, you're taking a part of someone (the good and the bad) and giving a part of you whenever you engage sexually. I am excited to see what other evidence develops from this discovery and love whenever science merges with spiritual concepts like this.
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So let's now move on to pornography. *dun dun dun*! Porn is causing widespread erectile dysfunction in our youth at epidemic levels. Yikes! Why? I am not one to demonize things, and I always appreciate two sides to a story but I want to focus on the cons of porn for us humans scientifically.
I studied human sexuality for several elective courses in college and also pornography in my abnormal psychology years at school. I think porn can be something positive if shared and 100% mutually agreed upon by partners; not something forced upon the other partner. However, the cons about porn scientifically outweigh the few pros that I've seen in research. Did you know there is a growing movement against porn? MakeLoveNotPorn and NoFap.com are pretty awesome.
For those of us who are older and see how porn can be "harmless"...take a minute to step back and look at the youth who are growing up with porn and view it as "normal". Porn viewing typically starts at around age 10+ for boys currently (way before they understand dating, relationships, that women are people not objects, that porn is fake, etc.). Porn is fantasy, it's not real, it's exaggerated, out of touch and truly is escapism. These kids are seeing breast implants, airbrushing, plastic surgery, misogyny, and often violence, as "normal". They're being exposed to more fetishes and bizarre sex acts with the diversity of the internet. They're not taught to get to know another soul before sex. The sex acts they see are interpreted as "normal"; Bleached anuses, women who stretch themselves or take opiates before a scene due to the pain, the bleeding between scenes that is cut out, or women who give themselves enemas so it appears "clean" for the camera. They see the objectifying of men and women as sex objects (more often women) as "normal". They also see a very unrealistic version of sex that lacks the intimacy and closeness that can make sex a wonderful thing. Often in porn, the only touching parts of the "bodies" are the genitals. There is usually no kissing. There is no intimacy. Not to mention that porn supports legal prostitution, sex trafficking around the world, demeans our women and men, and leads to other horrific sex crimes.
So what else is terrible about porn? Porn is causing an unprecedented level of erectile dysfunction in our young men. This should at least concern the pride and ego of our young men, if not for their own health and enjoyment of real life. This phenomena has been difficult to study because there is no "control group" to compare our youth to...over 90% of our young men watch porn so the experimental group has become the majority. The problem is the novelty of porn. Our brains are not evolved to handle the insane amount of dopamine available at the click of a button and so readily available. Pixels on a screen are replacing real life partners. A male rat will mate and reproduce until exhaustion and death in the lab when presented with new females each time, but when kept with one female his excitability lowers and he is less active and behaves normal. When someone watches porn, it is "a new partner" each time psychologically and thus the excitement overloads our systems, particularly for men. This also leads to addictions. So when someone watches porn and then tries to have sex with their life partner and they are less excited, aroused, disinterested, or can't "get it up", it's because of the porn. This is a fascinating video about the science behind it.
Porn lowers self-esteem, marital satisfaction, trust and intimacy in relationships.
Porn lowers the confidence of men and overall satisfaction with life.
Porn typically leads to the craving for more stimulation and needing to watch more intense or out-of-the-ordinary sex acts
Porn has also been shown to lead to infidelity, rape, and pedophilia. There is an "excitement theory" element that when porn demonstrates rape-like or barely-legal-like sex, people are more inclined to act out those scenes in real life.
Porn causes men to be less confident in dating and attracting women. Porn increases isolation, depression, weight gain, and lethargy. Men who quit porn became more confident, approached women better and engaged in more relationships than when they watched porn. They were also more productive with tasks and work.
Apparently men over 50 years of age had a faster recovery time then our youth when they quit watching porn; they were able to get erections faster than our young men. What? Yup! Our young men typically need about six months of remission time to accomplish their "sexual reboot" from quitting porn; making their E.D. vanish. Whereas, the senior men needed only 3-4 months of remission time. Why? Because the older generation did not grow up on porn. The senior men are/were performing better than our young men! They weren't raised on pornography. And the more someone watches porn, the stronger the pathways in the brain are made. The ones that connect pleasure with porn, versus pleasure from real sex and real people.
Lot's of people are speaking up against pornography, you can too. Teach our youth what real relationships and intimacy are. Sex is everywhere in our media and daily lives...just count the commercials that are sexual in nature. Everything is being sexualized and it will continue to get worse unless we change. If you're against it, you're not in the minority but often we settle because we think that is what everyone else is doing.
To be honest, I'm deeply concerned about the world our youth is
inheriting and what they're exposed to (crappy parenting, severe pollution and toxins in our products [aluminum, fluoride, mercury, hormones, etc], a corrupt
world, immoral business practices, etc.) I hope this post will lead you to consider the negative evidence of this industry and how it is corrupting our society. And maybe you'll have this discussion with others...I know it is considered taboo but people need to speak out about such things to help one another. I want people to know the truth about anything that is harming them (the business of cancer, porn, fluoride, etc. ) Thanks for reading!
After browsing on Facebook (yes, I am guilty for using social media too...obviously because I write a blog, ha)....
I
had come across someone's page who repeatedly was posting angry,
judgemental, hateful postings regarding other religions, political
concepts, and so on. I honestly get sad or hurt when I see someone
conducting themselves in this way...what purpose does it serve? I've
seen this type of "Facebooker" in my own family, previously, until I
decided I was not going to allow their negativity in my life. Pressing
'block' to someone's postings can be quite liberating. Sure we all share
social media space and thankfully we have a free country to share our
differing viewpoints in, but when someone is truly focusing on pure
hate, judgement, fear, and so on...is it really a viewpoint or rather a
state of mind? I am delighted to discuss differing opinions but if their
points stem from a lack of education on a matter, or stem from racism,
fear, and hate...I have a difficult time truly embracing what it is
they're trying to say or what point they're trying to make.
So! The point I am getting to...
The 'food for thought' today: What do you choose to let into your
life? You've all heard the saying, "You are what you eat/watch/surround
yourself with" and so on. So what is present in your life lately? Are
you putting into your life the 'food' to help you grow and flourish, or
are you adding in toxins and negative situations that drag you down?
Everything from your friends, family, television, groceries, music, and
experiences are something we can choose to either let in our life, or to
put up healthy boundaries against. So make sure you're involving
yourself with what is the highest good for yourself and others. :)
When our media and our own social media postings focus on negative things, more negative things are to follow. For example, when our media idolizes and focuses on mass murderers and suicides...guess what? More mass murders and suicides happen. It's factual.
All living things respond to positivity and negativity, and yes there is now science behind this. I have mentioned before the plant experiment, or the water and rice experiment. Once upon a time in 'science land' there were three plants (and in the other test, there were three bottles of rice with water) kept in identical environments, and something strange happened. Two plants were the experimental group, and one was the control group. The two experimental plants were divided into the "positive plant" and the other being the "negative" plant. The negative plant was subjected to angry, loud, negative comments, music, and negative thoughts. The other plant was spoken nicely to, complimented, encouraged to grow, told loving things, and 'listened' to classical music. Guess which plant began failing and which plant flourished? In the other experiment the "negative" rice and water rotted faster, whereas the positive rice and water did not rot and seemed to be preserved. Interesting, huh?
Our words, thoughts, emotions, music, and other aspects of our lives have a greater impact than what this world wants you to believe. Everyone has an aura, or a magnetic field, around us; that has been proven (check out Kirlian Photography). It has also been proven that when we have a thought an electromagnetic/physical reaction happens. We could go into quantum physics but basically I am trying to say that we affect our environments and ourselves with our thoughts, beliefs, and experiences.
Here is an interesting article about how people can be made to believe something and that belief alters their performance accordingly. Now imagine if this is what is being applied to in our media...we're made to believe all the hate and violence. http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/your-thoughts-can-release-abilities-beyond-normal-limits/ It can be kind of scary when you think about how much power our governments and media have over us with simple implied messages. This is why I encourage people to grow spiritually, to become aware, to become conscious. You can choose what to let in to your life and what to block out. Choose wisely :)
So it has been more than time for me to post another blog. My apologies for the tardiness...had to prioritize my tasks and blogging usually ends up at the bottom as I'm not paid to do it like my other jobs, ha ;) But it is something I enjoy doing when I get free time!
The last couple of weeks have been somewhat of a zoo for me in terms of planning and getting things ready. As of now, I should be leaving this Sunday for "La-La Land"...or more commonly known as Los Angeles. :) About a year ago I flew out there to meet with a wonderful production company regarding a television series concept that I liked. Out of the show offers I had turned down over the years, this was the first one that I thought could help evolve our country spiritually...and boy do we need it desperately in these times!
I look at all the anger, frustration, violence, inequality, and so on, in our country and it's hard not to point fingers at the fact that many of our people have completely lost touch of their spiritual side and the spiritual realm. One example: There are people who are quite religious, but lack the spiritual connection...typically they forget or were never taught that they can have a beautiful and close relationship with the divine simply through themselves, instead of ordained individuals or other traditional/orthodox routes. Typically this person will go through the motions of their religion but still have a feeling of disconnect, of feeling lost or questioning "is this all there is?" to their life. They are lacking that wholesome divine connection that all of us can have if we simply choose to do so.
If you would like that nourishing and fulfilling divine connection, start today by inviting our divine creator into your life. Ask for signs if you're unsure about a certain decision or life direction. Write down your dreams and look for hidden meanings and interpretations. Practice meditation and ask your angels and loved ones on the other side for messages. Watch for certain animals that come into your daily life (i.e. a red-tailed hawk) and look up what their "animal medicine" or "totem" means for you...there are messages and meanings in everything if we take the time to look for them.
Some scientists and atheists will tell us that humans practice this "looking for meaning" in insignificant details to bring purpose to our life and to feel more important than just a species that procreates, consumes and then dies...I look for messages in my daily life to make sense out of all the madness I often see in this world, to reassure me that I'm on my right path. There is no scientist, skeptic, or atheist that could convince me otherwise of the paranormal and spiritual experiences I have witnessed. People and objects being thrown across the room, precognitive experiences, etc. Things that could not be explained by science...I'll let the skeptics "explain away events" to make them feel more purposeful in the scientific community ;). It helps them sleep at night.
I often try to look at the motives of people who, when presented with valid and undeniable evidence of the paranormal or spiritual, still deny the concept at hand or completely disregard 73% of the population's experiences and beliefs. I think at the root of their behavior is 'fear'. Fear of the unknown, fear of judgement by the divine, fear that there is a god, fear of the idea that we are more than just bodies here are on earth...we are spiritual beings in a physical form. Fear that maybe they haven't been living their life to the best of their abilities as a good, sound, moral person. Fear that maybe the 9-5 world, the fancy cars, and expensive items really don't mean shit in the end. ;) For some people, that realization would mean they would have to completely reconstruct their life...and for them, it is scary.
To me, life is really about helping and loving one another, respecting and appreciating people, giving back to our environment, community, animals, and so on. There are lessons in these practices that no technology or device could ever teach you and is something that cannot be documented by our current means of science.
